You and your spouse are still together, and you’re almost ready to have the conversation about divorce. Those weeks and days before the split can be filled with anxiety as you go from determination, to confusion, to guilt and back to determination. You may second-guess your decision a number of times.
When you’re cycling through the emotions it’s best to:
- Understand that it’s going to be okay. Eventually, life will settle down after the separation, all the official documents will be filed and you will receive your final decree of divorce. You will be okay and your kids will be okay. There may be some rough patches, but you will come out on the other side and start a new life.
- Don’t do anything immediately until your emotions calm down and you can have a conversation with your spouse. If you fear a volatile scene, have someone with you or in the next room when you break the news to your spouse.
- Before you have the conversation, make certain you know the reasons you want the divorce. If you’re simply married to the wrong person, divorce will take care of that. If you still love your spouse, but you simply want them to change something about themselves, couples’ counseling might be a better way to go. If you want to work on some things about yourself, maybe therapy is a better solution. Divorce is not a magical fix to every problem, so it’s best to understand the reasons you have for divorce.
- Envision your life a year from now without your partner. What does that picture look like? Is it realistic that you would have that after divorce?
Getting Legal Help
The experienced Sacramento Family Law Attorneys at Bartholomew & Wasznicky LLP can help you navigate your divorce and child-custody issues with respect and compassion. Contact Bartholomew & Wasznicky LLP today for knowledgeable and respectful representation. Call us at (916) 455-5200 or email us at info@DivorceWithRespect.com.
